When I tell people that Grandma Pauline died last year at the age 96, the response is almost always some permutation of You were blessed to have her for so long. That is true in the technical sense. Then we held a graveside service later that day at Sealy Cemetery in Sealy, Texas. We had a very different Christmas this year and I havent been able to post anything, despite having read many books. I stopped in my tracks as soon as I saw her, waiting for her to breathe. The Japanese expression shoganai means something like it cant be helped; its a verbal shrug and is often invoked to describe a traditional resignation and acceptance of fate, an attitude in Japanese culture which allowed them to move on with their lives. Everyone told her that it was okay for her to go home but her stubborn little body just kept fighting. My mother certainly got an A ++ in this. You Might Have the Better Claim But I Have the Bigger Army. Her life was not easy and I think to be a mother fighting for your familys survival is difficult for your immediate relationships; but even after all that hardship and strife, there was enough softness left inside to give to her granddaughter. Search for: Recent Posts. Again, a sensory memory of security became the most indelible legacy of a loving parent. They worked hard and their daughters had good educations. Grandma was an expert seamstress and sewed clothing for her family. My kids found this hilarious; Grandma couldnt remember to stop singing. Lauren Flake is a wife, girl mom, native Austinite, seventh generation Texan, artist, author, and Alzheimer's daughter. Saying goodbye to my mother. I expected the agonizing wait to continue. Ive been in a bit of a shocked state because I think I believed she was eternal, even though she was 94 and getting frailer each time I saw her. That tells me the depths of her distress about her experience. I vividly remember my last good visit with you, about a month before you died, when (my brother) Russell and I came to see you the day before Mothers Day. Share on Pinterest. Vincent OKeefe is a writer and stay-at-home father with a Ph.D. in American literature. Now He's Grieving Alongside Millions. She had a fall on the 20th of December that fractured her pelvis and back, and she was in hospital. Another blogger I follow also unfortunately lost her Grandma. I know what I've found out so far has made a huge difference in my own life. Ill try to post on those later. When we got word en route that she had died, my husband had to keep assuring the kids that I was okay. We shared a hotel room, and as we both got up early, we walked the beach at Waikiki every morning and then Grandma took me to a cafe for breakfast, a different one every day. After a couple of days of absorbing the shock and trying to erase that final image of my mothers lifeless body, I woke up that Monday morning feeling at peace. When words fail, music comes through and pulls us all in. I can see so much of your mom and dad in you and that is superb. Beginners welcome. I was devastated, but also relieved for the permission to mourn what I had lost so many years earlier. Filed Under: death, growing up, memories Tagged With: Aging, Alzheimer's, life lessons. But as long as Mom could still lift a hand, she would lift it in kindness to someone else.". But of course, this isn't about history. When Id ask about my grandfather, Norman, who died in his late 50s in a plane crash on his way to Japan, shed remind me that I was named after him. When my grandmother died two weeks ago, I was asked to share a short eulogy at the memorial service. I thought Id share it here for those friends whom I havent managed to tell. A friend of my mothers for 40 years, Stuart Platt, delivered my mothers eulogy at her funeral and also spoke at her graveside service. Tony Dearing may be reached at tdearing@njadvancemedia.com. I will continue to write this column every week, because it's important to put this information in front of people, and to keep it in front of them. We will cherish each sweet moment together. [NBC News], We Cant Comprehend This Much Sorrow [NY Times], The Familial Language of Black Grief [The Atlantic]. Beauty wordings and a few random tangents! Pride. They had never seen me sob, and they couldnt grasp what was so sad about losing a person who barely remembered me. A lot of the Japanese culture that I retain, as a fourth-generation Japanese Canadian, came from her. I certainly will. Two Pleasers In A Relationship, Published on January 13, 2015, How Shane Hawkins and the Foo Fighters United Us in Grief, By Lori Tucker-Sullivan in Features, My Loss. Well, she lived 94 years so you know Grandma didnt waste rice. And am thinking of how to write my eulogy too. You were unusually alert. So beautiful Lea. March 22, 2012December 11, 2012. After being at the nursing home, watching and waiting, that Tuesday through Thursday, I stayed home all day Friday. She traveled Europe, South East Asia and Japan, and made many trips to the U.S. also. What a life she had and what a blessing she was to you and you to her. I am so sorry for your loss but what a moving memorial for her life. [], [] That night, a great peace washed over me. Jameson Peter Mendes, But the truth is that my grandmother had been gone for more than a decade when she took her last breath. [], [] After awaiting your passing and the end of your suffering for so long, I had no idea I would miss visiting you so much, even though you couldnt respond to me. My aunt Judy was born in Kamloops, my mother in Revelstoke, and my aunt Esther in Vernon, and the family made its way back to Vancouver in 1950, when the Canadian government allowed Japanese Canadians back to the coast, four years after the end of the war. Wow,so touching and I cant stop reading. But then I realized that would be exactly the wrong approach. They say that ones deep childhood memories are the last to leave a brain invaded by Alzheimers, in part because they are literally embodied in ones skin and bones. For years. I started reading your eulogy when you sent it, but read it today thoroughly. Tagged as eulogy, Japanese Canadian internment, What a stunning and moving tribute to your grandmother. 1. She told the same stories over and over, and as time went on closer and closer together. She was an expert in Japanese flower arranging and traveled with a bolt cutter and hatchet which she used to glean good specimens for her arrangements. Its difficult today to fully comprehend the pain of this experience, and how it affected our community. When I was 9 our family took a trip to Hawaii and Grandma came along. Registration on or use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement, Privacy Policy and Cookie Statement, and Your California Privacy Rights (each updated 1/1/20). Cheerfulness. I still dream about her often. Find NJ.com on Facebook. I hope we always remember her strength and fortitude, her love of beauty and her keen aesthetic sense, her kindness and love for her family. Shed probably forgotten how shed give me a manicure and wed go through old photo albums or watch Saturday Night Live. And didnt seem to remember our countless lunches at Neiman Marcus, where shed insist I use every last bit of strawberry butter for the popovers while also lecturing me not to pick out such dainty jewelry. During the night on the 23rd of December she suffered a stroke that left her non-responsive on the 24th, and that afternoon she died. I cant remember a single time I was around her when she wasnt encouraging, exhorting, or urging me and others toward faith and obedience to Christ. He is writing a memoir on gender and parenting. Since the doctors were unable to diagnosis exactly what kind of dementia she suffered from, her children and grandchildren had no general timeline to predict her decline. However, by the time she was 85, the connection Id always considered so special, essential, and real had truly become formal and foreign. And as you read those words, maybe they'll mean just a little more to you. But she was confused in large groups and had trouble keeping track of the names of what I suspect she considered the extra characters in her life, like our spouses and her great-grandchildren. I think it was a chapter of her life that she wanted to forget and erase as much as possible. She entered hospice care when I was pregnant with my first daughter and passed away, almost two years later, when I was pregnant with my second daughter. She looked after me a lot when I was young and my mother was establishing her career; I have very fond memories of the time I spent with her. But know Im thinking of you and thanks so much for sharing. She didnt wander off and she never completely forgot the members of her immediate family. Required fields are marked *. Love for Christ. Grandma was born in 1919, in Steveston. She left quite a legacy for us and I just hope we can live up to her example. I sat on her bed and held her hand. Keep being Mommy. I slept well that night for the firsttimesince the hospice nurse had told us the end was near. Do you know youre precious? she would ask during every outing together. How lovely that you had such a long relationship with her and she was able to pass on so much of herself to other generations. By Bob Thune After grandpa died, Grandma began to travel and explore the world. It's far more personal. My years of worry, tears, and constant attachment to my cell phone, expecting calls from nurses in the middle of the night, were over. I think that it would have been easy to sink into depression after the internment, or to be consumed with resentment and bitterness. By some miracle, this visit included an unusual bright spot of lucidity. I finally found peace after Alzheimers disease. We were all saddened by her departure, yet relieved that she would not suffer. It strips away the layers of etiquette and social pretense that most of us have learned to operate with. I hope I can be kinda like her when I grow up. By Cynthia Rodriguez in My Loss, Personal Essays. I just read the eulogy. There are no lessons about 'The Art of Mothering' we can only do our best and hope that we do it well. The glass was always half full. Your father touched my soul like no one ever has. The reason is that my mother's mother, my Grandma Sugiyama, passed away on Christmas Eve. Thinking of you, my dear friend. I always wondered what made him such a great man and reading your eulogy gives me insight into his upbringing. what do restaurateurs do when they're not working? And now that I can only reach back through the memories, I promise to share the best ones I have with my children and, God-willing, with my grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Taylor Hawkins' son poured everything into each slam of the sticks. As many of you know, for the last ten years or so, Grandma has suffered from dementia and memory loss, such that in her latter days she was a shadow of her former self. In her mind, Thunes were great at everything and everybody ought to acknowledge it. Russell wheeled you outside for some fresh air and sunshine, and you smiled and tried to speak to me several times. I also remember my husband sitting by her side talking to her for several minutes. And in her later years, when the more complex aspects of her personality had faded, her joyful faith in Jesus remained. | Shed experienced a bad fall, and Id come to see her at the hospital. I believe that if the information is readily available, and consistently reinforced, it's possible to get through to people and to change behavior. Tags: Dementia, Grandparent Loss, It's Complicated I was finally ready for her to go. Grandma never heard my dad preach a mediocre sermon; she never watched a ball game in which her kids or grandkids werent the most valuable player; and she never understood why John didnt get 100% of the vote in every election. Cheerfulness. Archives My grandmother was shaped by her historical context. The five days leading up to my mothers death were physically and emotionally trying. May her soul rest in peace Amen. The last time I saw my grandmother was in April 2013, about nine months before she died. A few days later, her daughters were with her when she passed; I hope she felt their presence, their love and loyalty to her. As a child, he always associated the clippety-clop sound of her approaching shoes with a sense of comfort, a sign of someone coming to provide care and security. I took them to see her anyway. I know how concerned people are about these matters because I hear from them every week. It's an anxiety that hangs over all of us. Mhw Mods Allowed 2020, Your email address will not be published. I think that she became a fighter, for herself and for her family. I couldnt tell anyone not at Christmas. "Since 2014, when the clinic was founded, it's been OK to say 'Alzheimer's disease' and 'prevention' in the same sentence.". To this day, coconut syrup and guava juice means Waikiki Breakfast with Grandma. Because you'll know where they come from. The words of the Bible rolled off her tongue with ease. Writer. I spent the rest of that week scanning photos of my beautiful mother and finalizing details for her funeral services. Jet Diver Vs Dipsy Diver, We hosted a memorial service at Western Hills Church of Christ in Austin, Texas. And many of us here today are the fruit of those prayers. I just lost her 1st of january 2016. That is how we will always remember her. I told my husband I feel like when I hold her hand, Im asking her to stay with me. For some reason, I knew that she would let go when no one was watching her; I felt she wanted it that way. I was looking for details I could use for the eulogy Id need to deliver two days later, but I also wanted to melt the feelings about her Id frozen since shed started becoming a different person. Two years ago, Harold and Pat came to my church for the first time ever. What a beautiful piece of writing and a wonderful tribute to an obviously amazing person. Tras la muerte de mi mam, encontr un nuevo significado en mi color favorito de siempre. Eulogy for a Grandmother I'm not sure how you begin to talk about a life that spanned nearly a centurya woman whose time included half a dozen wars, The Great Depression, and 17 different presidents. Music played an important role in my journey through my mothers illness. Grandma was pretty frail by then and I wasnt sure she even knew who I was. With me, she was always kind and patient. Who Grandma was in her final years is who she really was. I had already spent so many years grieving and honoring the memory of my mother and best friend. It was vibrant and living and worshipful. Keep living your life. A lovely heartfelt story, that just goes to show how everyones life is fascinating. Did I really need to get attached and then lose my stepmom to colon [], [] Before I had babies, the last diaper I changed was my mothers. Then the war. But I can finally remember her, I would have explained, except that I couldnt talk. Queer cripple with a PhD. We always knew we werent as great as Grandma thought we were; but we hoped we were kinda close. We are hoping to move him into a nursing home closer to my grandmother early next week. She cultivated refinement in her surroundings and her person. It was vibrant and living and worshipful. But then I realized that winding back the clock would be exactly the wrong thing to do on a day like this. In the last few years of Grandma Paulines life, my older two kids, around 6 and 8 at the time, were confused about why we had to make time to see her. I was the eldest, born at least 7 years before the next grandchild, so I commanded her attention, plus she was a fairly young grandmother with lots of energy for a young child. We held the funeral yesterday and I gave the eulogy. By Nina Badzin. He has continued to improve and was out of bed and walking today! Get to Chicago right away, they told me. There was no high school in Deep Bay, so Grandma finished school at 13 and began to help her family on the fishing boat, in the cannery, and also working berry picking and farming. It felt inappropriate to mourn Grandma Pauline, while she was still with us at least in the literal sense, but the spirit of her was so far away. April 12, 2017 by Vincent O'Keefe Leave a Comment, The authors mother lived a full life before dying of Alzheimers at age 85, and writing her eulogy helped him better understand it. Because while the most meaningful memories of Grandma are those from days long past, the most accurate memories the ones that most clearly reveal her true character are the most recent ones. I have tears in my eyes, though I never met her. She was delicate and wild., Memorial Service Packet Dixie StuckyMemorial Service Packet Insert Page Dixie StuckyKnesek Funeral Home Obituary and Guestbook. Heres a transcript of what I said instead. : A Preschoolers Guide to Losing A Loved One. From Lillooet she moved with her family to Kamloops, where she met my grandfather, and they married in 1944. I didnt hear my grandmother say shoganai. She didnt speak of the internment at all to me. She also boiled shiitake mushrooms which doesnt smell good to kids and to this day I cant eat shiitake. Until finally, it is over. (You take the good, you take the bad.) Clara Sent from my iPhone. Grandma never heard my dad preach a mediocre sermon; 3. But to me, that was a great picture of who Grandma actually was. My most emotional moment was holding my phone up to her ear so my grandfather could say goodbye to his only child. As she put it: she was an optimist, while Harold was more of a realist.. I was desperate to be wild in grief and my coke-snorting bestie was my ticket to fun. I had no idea the next time I saw you, you would be unconscious on your deathbed. No more suffering, no more pain, no more Alzheimers disease. I was lucky enough to be the only grandchild with whom she had a close relationship. Out of loyalty to our relationship and because it was the right thing to do, I spent time with my grandmother whenever I came to Chicago to see my parents. Grandma and Grandpa set up a corner store in east Vancouver, which they kept open long hours. She had developed a tendency to remember and talk in loops of repeating information, but we were kind of on the same track. I cant say for sure what her memory and consciousness were allowing her to experience, but Id like to think that we made one last connection before she left us. Grandmas faith was never religious, dutiful, or pious. She's gone. In a way, I'm still writing it. Her family was drastically set back by the confiscation of all their property. I hated watching her unconscious, struggling to breathe and seeing her body succumb a little more each day to dehydration. Im very sorry for your loss. I would even say theres such a thing as nave optimism. Then we held a graveside service later that day at Sealy Cemetery in Sealy, Texas. They said their final goodbye to their only child after watching her struggle with Alzheimers disease for more than 10 years. From what you said, shes more like my grand ma. Such a nice eulogy to a lovely grandmother. She doesnt know us, theyd say. I feel like I lost my mom a long time ago, but there was no funeral, no obituary, no headstone, no closure. For the past 10 years, Grandma suffered from dementia and memory loss so I was tempted to rewind the clock and talk about how she really was in her earlier years. Read more about Lauren. She finally found peace after Alzheimers disease. I probably wanted to throttle you and I was taking it out on your heads! We all laughed hard, then noted how long it took for each of us to realize you dont have to shake your head violently to wash your hair. This Grandsons Eulogy for His Grandmother Will Touch Your Heart and Make You Long for Yours. In the end, Im grateful to her for everything she was to me, and Im able to feel glad that she is free now. Nina and Grandma Pauline She loved nice shoes and clothes and was always well turned out. Do you know youre loved?. With tears in her eyes, she said, We are very special to each other, arent we? 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What a lifetime your grandmother had youve captured it so well, describing the wartime and subsequent hardships, but focusing on the gifts she passed on to you and your family. As everyone took stock of our familys past, I learned a surprising lesson: Memories borne through touch, taste, sound travel well. He was able to swallow (pureed foods) again and was talking to all of us and even telling jokes. Like so many previous visits, I wanted so desperately to know what you were saying, thinking, seeing. People didnt deliver meals or flowers. She fixed my hair with gentle hands. Hi Lea, After my mom died, I discovered a world of new meaning in my favorite color. As Grandma lost her memory these last few years, she often mistook my daughter Mio for me; it took her a while sometimes to connect the adult I am now with the child she used to take care of. [], [] This Sunday will bemy second Mothers Day since my mother died. I recently lost my mother to Alzheimers. For those of you who dont know me, my given name is Robert Harold Thune or Bobby, as my grandmother called me for my entire life. We visited her in hospital and I showed her pictures of my familys trip there in October and she reminisced about her last trip. I didnt really take time to grieve, and, to be honest, I thought I had already finished [], [] in Rockport on the Texas coast. We're so glad you're here. Because there were so many of us, we grew up in a noisy family. The Riparian Times is a boutique publication with musings about life, travel, fashion and art. She stopped going to her film class; she quit her book club; she lost interest in seeing friends. It was during that drive that I filled pages with notes about my childhood memories of her. Her battle was over. For someone who is diagnosed with it, there is no cure, and no treatment to reverse its course. Men nr jag passerade ldern d han dog, ndrades ngot. 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